We don’t know what it is. And to feel any kind of way that you know better than another what their own individiual purpose is, is 100% pure ignorance. And is all types of evil.
To assume you know whats good for somebody else is a serious misconception about who you believe their God is.
One of the most dangerous evils you will face during your spiritual journey is battling other people’s thought projections of who they think you should be.
Everyday we are bombarded with other people’s thought projections. These are mental thoughts about us and our identity and our purpose that others project onto us in an attempt to influence our choices and decisions “for our own good”.
This isn’t the kind of peer pressure you faced when you were a child. These thought projections are on a whole other level.
You don’t hear them as much as you feel them. Usually they are not done intentionally. But sometimes they are. Most of the time they are a result of love without compassion or love without wisdom, from people who care about you but yet do not act out of faith in God and his mercy and grace for you but out of fear or compulsive behavior as result of not working through their own issues.
Sometimes it is done out of a sense of protection. You see someone going in a direction that you feel will bring harm or danger to them and you try to stir them away. When you do this from a place of wisdom and campassion this is ok.
For example, if I’m driving down the road and the bridge up ahead is out and you have already discovered this and seen other cars slide into the water and you try to presuade me to turn around, that is much needed guidance.
You’re acting out of wisdom. You know ultimately that what I want is life and to get to my destination and you also know without a doubt that I will not be able to get there if I continue on that current road and out of compassion you try to turn me around.
Now on the contrary if the bridge is not out but you have a fear of crossing over water and you try to project your fear onto me and prevent me from crossing the bridge to get where I need to get to, that is a problem.
It takes discernment and wisdom to know when other peoples thought projections are hurting or helping you. And it starts with knowing thy self.
That is why the most important part of spiritual formation is knowing who you are. It comes from turning within. It is discovered in our solitude and time of communion with the father. For when you know who you are you also know who you are not. And then you know when to accept and when to reject others’ projections of who they think you are.
“Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand.” -Romans 14:4